Before I get into this, I’ll save you the trouble of pointing out that I used to work at Gawker. I quit that job, and one of the reasons I quit was that I wasn’t comfortable with being shady, insulting, and two-faced. It’s not that I’m saying I’m some kind of moral beacon, I just am terrible at dissembling, acting one way to someone’s face and another way behind his back. And I’m not a hardnosed investigative journalist who will do anything for the story, no matter who gets hurt. I don’t like the idea of hurting people. It took me quite a while to realize this, and if you want to criticize me for having taken quite a while to realize this, go ahead. That’s valid. But just because I used to hurt people doesn’t mean I now have to approve of it when other people do.
A woman named Susannah Breslin called me around the time that my Times magazine story came out, saying that she wanted to interview me for a piece she was writing about the Sex and the City movie. She introduced herself as a friend of one of my former coworkers, and because it seemed like doing a favor for a friend of a friend, I spoke to her on the phone. None of my quotes ended up in her article, which I was grateful for. However, I wasn’t particularly grateful when she wrote a post on her personal blog about how snotty I’d seemed on the phone. More recently, about the paragraph-long excerpt from an essay included in my book proposal that was posted on New York magazine’s Daily Intelligencer blog, Breslin wrote a post on her blog entitled “Vomit,” which reads in part:
“This writing is so god awful I thought it was worth pointing out. I love the blogosphere, and the blogs, and the blogginess of the world, but one thing blogs have done is given people who write the perception they are writers.”
From other posts on her blog, we learn that Breslin is hard at work on a novel. I would like her to post a random paragraph from that novel on her blog, just to see how it looks in that context.
Yesterday afternoon I was waiting around for various deliveries and installations of things and I wasn’t screening my calls. So I picked up the phone. It was Jessica Coen, who used to work at Gawker and who now works at New York magazine’s Daily Intelligencer blog, I guess overseeing it somehow, though during our conversation she was quick to point out that it’s not like at Gawker — “I’m not in in there in Moveable Type or anything” — so I guess this means she doesn’t have direct control over anything anyone writes there.
Daily Intelligencer posts don’t have bylines, but because one of their editors has always been friendly to me in person and wrote me a supportive, fuck-the-haters type email when that Times piece came out, I’ve been assuming that the really ad hominem posts about me on there — which are the fourth and fifth Google results for my name, respectively — have been written by the other editor, Chris Rovzar, who I don’t remember ever having met. Rovzar is one of the best Gossip Girl recappers of our time, and that’s saying something. But his posts about me are not only gross, they’re full of basic factual errors. He accuses me of documenting my “burps and blow jobs” and says, innacurately, that “while at Gawker [I] made the site all self-referential, to the detriment of pageviews.” Well, okay, except that my Gawker posts still get more pageviews than the posts of some writers who actually currently work there. He has also taken me to task for misrepresenting bloggers to America, and for using the personal pronoun too many times in a personal essay.
Anyway, back to my conversation with Jessica Coen. “We have a very good source who says that you got a million dollars from Reagan Arthur at Little, Brown,” she told me. I told her that rumor was wrong in all its particulars. I didn’t know then that Publisher’s Weekly and Publisher’s Marketplace had already run items about the book’s sale, which were correct in all their particulars (except that PW daily called it a “memoir,” a word that makes my skin crawl and which apparently makes everyone else’s skin crawl, too. What is a 26 year old who hasn’t overcome an addiction or been a child soldier doing writing a MEMOIR? But it’s hard to figure out what else to call a book of autobiographical stories, I guess. That is a few too many words to fit onto a computer screen, apparently.)
So I told Jessica, off the record, to look for a press release, and then — stupidly! — I took the opportunity of having her on the phone to ask her why her site’s coverage of me was so personal and so negative. I don’t know what I wanted her to say, really. “I don’t like you and I never did”? That would have been kind of gratifying, I guess. Instead, though, she talked about how she was sure, having been there, I understood what it was like. And she “apologized.” She said,
“I’m sorry you’ve found it hurtful.”
Look, it’s not like Jessica Coen and I were ever friends, but there was a time — I guess when I worked at Gawker — that we were friendly. On instant messenger, at least. And we have friends in common. Well, maybe those people are my friends! One of them sent me a congratulatory e-card yesterday — ok, she is a friend. The other one regularly posts semi-backstabby things about me on his blog and his Twitter, but is so entertaining and hilarious and brilliant that I can’t stop myself wanting to chat with him on instant messenger. The ratio of real-life to online interaction in the case of both of those friendships is something like 20/80, though.
Oh, and then there’s Rachel Sklar, who was so nice to me when I worked at Gawker, always sending me such long, chatty emails, especially when she wanted something she’d written to be linked to. Sometimes I’d write something about Julia Allison that would make her angry and she’d send me long, crackpotty, strange emails. She’s also a friend of a friend. She has never been anything but incredibly nice to me in person. And lately she has been one of my harshest critics, writing cattily and condescendingly about me on the Huffington Post’s Eat the Press blog.
“For anyone who has followed the saga of Emily Gould, this week’s New York Times magazine cover story comes as a shock only to the extent that they would publish it,” one of her posts began. Of course Rachel Sklar thinks my “saga” is old news. She used to live in Josh Stein’s apartment building. Yesterday, her post about my book deal included four references to my appearance and the speculation that I might be tempted to pose for Playboy.
This is a person who has been inside this machine so long she no longer realizes that a world exists outside of it.
A world exists outside of it. Let’s go spend at least a long weekend there.
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Hi, Emily. I like that you wrote this and I like what you wrote. Last night I was talking to my bf about how I’ve been reading your blog since before you became “Emily Gould” and how much I like you. He didn’t understand, but it didn’t matter.
And congratulations on your book deal. It *is* a big deal and I’m sure the money helps and you get to write–though it sucks that it got such a shitty reception from ppl you used to work with. And, man, does jealously really make ppl turn into assholes. If given the chance, would Rachel Sklar have turned down that NY Times mag offer? Or Jessica Coen? Doubtful. Also, yes, Rachel’s paragraph there is creepy.
And I’m glad you left Gawker. You’re a better person b/c of it.
Also, will you please write longer pieces on your blog? Like you used to in the old Emily Mag days?
new york is nuts. you should get out of there. try the west coast. mild sunshine, cheap apartments and some isolation would do you good.
I say congrats and you deserve it. But yeah maybe you can play like Mandy Moore and write it alone in a cabin upstate?
Hello-
Having only a peripheral knowledge of who you are and what you do, I was intrigued enough by a Seattle blog’s mention of your book deal to Google you. Naturally I found the NYT mag article, which I found refreshing and, despite what everyone seems to think about its length, engrossing. I’m a recovering oversharer (great term) and I think peoples’ bitchiness and backstabbitude toward you can be summed up quite simply: you’re younger, you’re cuter, you’re more accomplished, and you’ve just netted a six-figure book deal. Living well really is the best revenge, I suppose.
Please enrage the haters further by writing a movie treatment so Ellen Page can have something to do in 2010.
I think most people are in such high dudgeon because it seems as if you want to assert moral standard after the horse has left the barn, and that seems at best hypocritical and at worst, calculating (you stuck it out long enough to gather really juicy dirt and anecdotes, but not enough to be permanently soiled by the experience, etc.). Maybe if you weren’t clearly working so hard at profiting from all this, they would extend you the greater benefit of a doubt.
Sounds like you need this long weekend, in the world outside; although it also sounds as if your sense of perspective is mostly intact, regardless of the barking dogs.
Well, you’ve sorted of/kind of answered the question of whether or not Jessica Coen actually has a soul. But seriously… congrats. And at the risk of sounding high-school-ish, fuck the haters.
Re: Emily’s post, just a few things: (1) Yes, I was always nice to Emily, in emails sending links or just being supportive, like after Jimmy Kimmel. I actually still think I’ve been nice, insofar as “nice” means “fair” - I have made a point of noting that she is a talented writer and can write a great book. (2) The “long, crackpotty” emails were about friendship, fairness and feminism. (This post was a trigger.) I have refrained from referencing or commenting in print on emails I received from Emily, and will continue to do so. (3) Josh used to live around the corner from me, and then he moved to England, and I don’t know where he lives now. 4) I’ll reference just one of my own crackpotty emails, in which I gave Emily one piece of advice I still stick to: “Just make sure you can look at yourself in the mirror at the end of the day and you’re doing okay.” That works for me. I hope it works for her.
Dearest Emily,
I posted this on Gawker and I will post it here.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=3I7c3SX0zFE
Sincerely,
WackoJacko
Geez, lady, get over yourself. You give self-absorbed whiners a bad name.
Remembering that there’s a world outside is pretty important. A friend recently shamed me for reading gossip blogs/New York weeklies, but not the Times. I know that there might be a third Lohan, but I don’t know anything about Zimbabwe. That’s a problem.
“I wasn’t comfortable with being shady, insulting, and two-faced.”
Really, Emily? REALLY? I can remember a time when that’s all you were into.
Look, you’re getting a taste of your own medicine - don’t pretend you don’t know what I mean, because, look, neither of us has the time for that kind of nonsense - and you don’t like it. But you’re not a hapless victim. You walked into all of this with your eyes wide open to the consequences. You knew what kind of flack you’d have to take for writing what you did, but you did it anyway.
You may be a decent writer, you may even be a good one, but you have not always been a good person. So stop acting so hurt and surprised that people are up to your old tricks.
How is any of this different from what you did with and to Julia Allison? Or any of the other objects of your ire at Gawker. I understand that you don’t work at Gawker any more. That’s fine. But you did it and you traded on confidences of people who thought you were a friend and you also took the time to humilate people you’ve never met before and who were not public figures to begin with.
Basically I’m saying that you’ve been a bad person and that a lot of people are seconding this opinion, but you’re not hearing it. They’re putting it in cold type on the Internet and you think they’re “being mean.” No, they’re not. They’re making light of the fact that you regularly and publicly act in a socially unacceptable manner and then stand around guilelessly shocked when someone calls you out on it.
Sure, Rachel Sklar is ridiculous and awful. But she also probably makes less money than you did at Gawker and will never find a husband despite those tits. Why is she the measure of your personal behavior? Why are you using former Gawker editors like Coen as your moral guidposts? You’re not that stupid.
Look, all these people suck. Yes they do. You do too. So long as you keep behaving the same way they do and trading on bad attention like a 2 year-old, you suck. You can either come to grips with that and embrace it–and stop complaining about it–or you can stop sucking. But what you can’t do is keep on as you have, backstabbing other people on the Internet (Henry? Jesus. The poor guy. If I was him I would resolve to let the air out of your tires and egg your house every chance I got for the rest of my life. Man, you fucking suck.) and then whining about it and expect to get sympathy from anyone other than people you’d never want to hang out with.
See my email from yesterday. Perhaps I love you.
:p
you suck.
Know what? I’m glad that you love Liz Phair, because this whole situation makes me think of “Help Me, Mary.”
It’s your show now, lady, stop letting these fuckers make the rules. It’s going to be OK, and probably even better than that.
Yikes, I still don’t understand why so many people were so upset by the Times article. Seriously, I would rather read 10 pages of you describing the paint on the walls than say, Zev Chafets going on and on and on about what a great guy some conservative (homophobic) asshole like Mike Huckabee or Rush Limbaugh is. Ultimately, I think it boils down to the quality of the prose, and whatever “it” is, you have it these days — kind of like Liz Phair circa Exile! It’s awesome to behold for those of us with no axe to grind, and for those who do, it obsv inspires a lot of jealousy and hatred (and yes, I think there’s is an element of misogynistic bs here, too, even or especially from some of the women, just cause that’s the way the world is these days.) People are by and large selfish, unthinking losers (hey, I’m one of them!) and it’s been like that for a long time. My recommendation is to curl up with some Schopenhauer or JK Huysmans or any of the other brilliant pessimists who have taken the ugly truths of the world and transformed them into something great to behold.
http://kidlessinsuburbia.blogspot.com/2008/07/emily-gould-is-to-me-as.html
Wow, you still don’t get it: there would be injustice here only if you possessed a body of work that was worthy of people’s respect. But the fact is, what’s now happening to you is EXACTLY THE SAME as what you did to other people, and all you seemed to be good at, when you worked at Gawker. If you can’t deal with the minimal repercussions now, how will you handle it when your book is published, and when they follow you around for the rest of your career? Because believe me, they will. And you deserve it all, and more.
1.) It’s easy to hate and criticize. That’s all that the vast majority of NY bloggers seem to know how to do. (Other than use the word “hipster” in every other post)
2.) People CAN and DO CHANGE.
3.) Congratulations, Emily. If, as suggested, this was your plan from the beginning, then you’re a FUCKING GENIUS!
That’s not a gossip sausage, it sounds more like a gossip turd.
Once again the writing community desperately pretends to support one of it’s own while encouraging the same behavior it will later label “unacceptable” and then vilify the person once they have a tad success.
If there is anything I have observed about the blogger community I will never forget that trusting ANYONE is a mistake.
Emily, no matter what you have done or ever will do there will be someone who is jealous, catty and immature.
Suck it, haters.
I was hoping the leaked pages of your proposal were in fact a hoax. Pretty awful. I usually like your writing, but I don’t think i’d pay for it.
Gee, comment backlash. That was unpredictable.
Hey “Some Guy,” I’ve written hundreds of hater comments with misspellings because I was too stoned to focus just like this one. Advice? Work your way through it. Keeps you in a shitty mood and tones down your appeal.
And the other haters: Look hard in the mirror.
The best revenge really is living well. Can you understand that at all?
Emily, I am writing as a friend of the woman who bought your book, someone who also is involved in the publishing industry, and also someone who was involved with a book that you slammed on this blog without reading. And I am writing with some advice: please, please, pretty please stop posting this stuff. It doesn’t help you. Indeed, you are only making things worse.
At this moment, the best thing you can do is this: shut up. Go do your real work. Write a book that justifies everything you believe in and that says everything you want to say.
There’s other roads for you to take right now. But that’s the only answer.
Gossip sausage, yum!
You see Emily, I don’t hate you, but I hate the caricature that Gawker has drawn of you. That caricature is of a person who’s suddenly had success thrust upon them and fails to admit that it’s probably more luck than talent.
You’re good a writer, but are you really *that* much better than the legions of MFA students that flood New York?
Had you not worked at Gawker and not turned yourself into a local icon, do you think you would have gotten the NYT cover and the book deal? Or, at least, do you think you would have gotten them so quickly?
I think a lot of the hate stems of the “biting the hand that feeds you” way in which you quit Gawker. None of the other former Gawker writers have attracted the sort of vitriol that you have. As far as I can tell the main difference was that, at least publicly, they appeared to leave on neutral or good terms with the site.
You could have walked into Denton’s office, given him two weeks notice, and posted a note that you had elected to try something else. No one would have given it a second thought. Your dramatic exit had a certain whiff of “I’m too talented for this place,” which rubbed people the wrong way.
How old is Sklar, anyway? 42?
God, Rachel Sklar is such a two-faced wiener. Thank you for pointing that out Emily. I know pretty much everyone knows she is a dumbass by this point but not enough people point out her assholeness because they fear the faux-power of HuffPo.
POW!! ZAPPPP!!!!!
BAM!!
ZOWEE!!! WHAM!
Bestest black & white fireworks display EVER!
GENUIS GENIUS AND GENIUS
Yeah and have fun on the 4th!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If the first challenge to an artist is to overcome the public’s indifference you appear to have accomplished that. For example, Janco has friends that plan to follow you for the rest of your career! Consider all these characters (myself included) who choose to comment on your blog when there are any number of other things we could be doing instead. You should do the opposite of shutting up.
I think everyone should stop advising everyone else to look in the mirror. Maybe look in the mirror less. Look at a bird or a baby or something. Look at your own hands (if on acid especially). Look up “elephants” in google image search. Cute, right?
Hi Emily,
I disagree with the publishing “expert” who says you are hurting yourself.
This is brilliant.
Have a fun weekend.
Rachel Sklar is an idiot!
wooha
Hi Emily,
Just wanted to say congrats on your book deal!
You know that there will always be people trying to tear you down, so take in stride, inhale deeply–don’t forget to exhale–and know that you are worthy.
I feel like the point is that all this media is really young. We’re still figuring it out — what feels good the next day or at the time, how friendships function both on and off-line, how to network with your face & name in a cyberlandscape where most of the consumers are faceless and nameless, what’s worth it — what we can give up, what we shouldn’t let go of, what we ought to be earning, why we do it after all.
People change, and evolve, and the fact that Emily lets us see that happen online is kinda remarkable and beautiful.
Obviously y’all [who say mean things] think so too, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading it, or taking time out to comment — negative or positive.
You have a lot of supporters, and it’s too bad that the negative voices sound so much louder than the positive ones. Maybe you’re at a point where positive feedback feels creepy, and negative feedback feels infuriating, and neutral feedback feels like a ticking time bomb. There’s no point to this paragraph, it just is.
Congratulations on your book deal, great post, and Happy Independence Day!
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also —
@surlygrad: “Had you not worked at Gawker and not turned yourself into a local icon, do you think you would have gotten the NYT cover and the book deal?”
Probably not, isn’t that how careers work? Like isn’t that the point?
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I still cannot help but wonder if most of the vitriolic reactions from people (particularly within the Manhattan media industry) toward you have more to do with a latent jealousy of you, your writing, and the stories you have told and still have to tell than they have to do with any factually-based critique of you as a writer. Sure, we’re all friends while we’re on the same proverbial “level,” but the second one sees another begin to maybe get ahead (or, as seems to be the case with you, see a very-clearly-drawn-line between “pro-Gould” and “anti-Gould,” it is then when the real truth between friends, colleagues, mentors, etc., comes out.
In any case, I loved this, and congratulations on the sale! The best response you could ever give any of your haters would be to produce a book of writing that proves them all wrong before they’ve even critiqued a single turn of phrase, and it is this that I certainly wish for you!
Emily,
You wrote: “But just because I used to hurt people doesn’t mean I now have to approve of it when other people do.”
You don’t have to approve, but may want to start taking your licks like a grown up.
I believe you can do this. Just be strong, ignore the bad press and get the book out. In the more immediate future, you may want to stop posting whiny diatribes that reveal just how hung up you are on what people think about you. It’s nothing but encouragement for the haters.
Hang in there!
I forgive you for stoking the fires with posts like this. I understand it’s a necessary evil just to help sell the book (and to give yourself some kind of closure to the tumultuous last couple years).
More power to you. I hope you make a lot of money from it. You’ve earned it. You deserve it.
That said, it sure would be a shame if you didn’t expand your horizons and take chances in your life with the time and the piece of mind that that money will buy.
I hope you challenge yourself to continue to change and grow; to write something that would surprise us (and more importantly, yourself), something utterly different from …Whatever.
I look forward to the book. But I look forward to the ones five, ten years down the road even more.
Dude! Why did you and Keith break up? You’re totally on the same wavelength!
I have to agree with Bella. You come out looking very good (of course you all ready did, but now I love you even more) and Sklar looks incredibly shallow and mean. I’m not sure who Sklar even is (I avoid the HuffPo like the plague), just her name. But now I know never to read her. Have a great 4th.
I, for one, am looking forward to that upcoming Playboy appearance.
I’m so glad that I didn’t let my subscription lapse.
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You know, when she was here, I was one of her most vocal critics, but now I just feel sad for her. Like maybe she needs some friends who have read, like, one book in their life and don’t care about any of this shit. She definitely needs to stop having feelings for a while. Es possible!
Um, not to put too fine a point on it—and believe me, I know this is going to sound “mean,” but there’s just no way around it—but could you do the rest of humanity the favor of, like, throwing yourself in front of a bus or something? Thanks.
@ow a paper cut: Please learn to read, dumbass. I’m not threatening to have Emily followed around — I clearly wrote that the repercussions of her actions would follow her. Just like your decision to earn a GED instead of a proper education has followed you around.
child,
you need to smoke more pot.
Emily, you come off as a disgusting person.
“I just am terrible at dissembling, acting one way to someone’s face and another way behind their back.”
You’re a liar.
You should get the money you paid to go to college back. Do you read books? Have you applied to MFA programs? Do you think they would take you?
If you watch the Jimmy Kimmel thing the difference between you and a lot of the people you mock is really clear. They are a lot smarter than you, better spoken than you, don’t contradict themselves repeatedly and don’t attempt to make sweeping statements in response to specific criticisms. In other words its not just that they are better looking & better educated.
Congrats on your book deal. I loved the new york times article. And I have been inspired by your journey. We all have our share of ups and downs….I’m proud of you for continuing to get back up after so many ppl try their best to ruin you. Can’t wait to read the book!!!
I enjoyed your Heartbreak Soup blog: you’re sensitive, introspective, and your honest recounting of experience resonates with me as I’m sure it does for many others. That alone makes your writing worthwhile. However, I hope you realize that your writing is not literary, in the true sense of the word, regardless of how many excellent synonyms you find and despite a relatable voice and faultless grammar.
Get. Over. Yourself.
I read the NYT article and have infrequently read Gawker. It is through it’s most recent blog that I am linked to this one. As someone slightly older and a bit wiser I wholeheartedly agree with 99’s post. You dished it, you take it (what goes around comes around, and all other analogies..etc). The worst part perhaps may be your impending success with this. Can you imagine how much more spiteful and jealous these bloggers are going to be. I wouldn’t want to go near Gawker when this happens bc it will be a bloodbath. Moral ots……Think before you act….errr….uhm….I mean blog. Happy fourth EMMMM.
Hi, Emily. First of all, I hope you are not reading any of these comments until long after the holiday, after returning from someplace scenic and breezy. In fact, I am operating under the assumption that you are not reading this, and so will write a wildly self-indulgent comment. A lot of what is going on, sausage-wise, reminds me of Gene Wilder’s character in Blazing Saddles. And I quote:
“Oh, well, it got so that every piss-ant prairie punk who thought he could shoot a gun would ride into town to try out the Waco Kid. I must have killed more men than Cecil B. De Mille. It got pretty gritty. I started to hear the word ‘draw’ in my sleep. Then one day, I was just walkin’ down the street, and I heard a voice behind me say, ‘Reach for it, mister!’ I spun around and there I was face to face with a six year-old kid. Well, I just threw my guns down and walked away. The little bastard shot me in the ass.”
Right now, a lot of little bastards are shooting you in the ass. There is an idea, which you didn’t invent but which your biography can be seen to reinforce, that bloggers can make their name in this city through meanness. For people who still think that, you are an obvious target.
And even if I’m a little off with this analogy, that Waco Kid scene is fantastic (and it’s on YouTube).
Let them yell, cry, hiss and scratch.
Some are jealous, some need a stratching post, some need attention, and some are offended (maybe that you knocked them to the ground), but their assessments are really not the point of how you should be living your life.
Focus on yourself, on book, on how you would like your life to be and it will all come together.
Hi Emily,
Greetings from a fellow Montgomery Countyer. I enjoyed your NY Times piece, and for that matter, so did my dad, who knows a thing or two about good writing and not really anything about “the blogosphere.” It sounds like you are learning a lot — very quickly — about the gap between the vast assemblage of people whose professional circumstances mean that they are, technically, writers, and the tiny group of writers who do what they do ethically and responsibly — you know, like grownups. Keep learning, keep writing. P.S. It has long seemed to me that Ms. Breslin is a little disturbed. I think she would probably be the first to admit it.
I think you have to accept the fact that you have crossed the divide from editor to subject. It was an awkward transition, but you made it to the other side! Of course, there are advantages to your new position: book deals, talk show appearances, NYTM cover stories. But the downside is that now you have to deal with a tremendous amount of negative attention. Deal with it! As a fellow attention seeking over-sharing idiot, you might even enjoy it. I am afraid you no longer have the luxury of being oversensitive. You invited the world into your personal life, and you have to accept harsh judgments. Having said that, I find you to be a sympathetic person and I wish you well!
Everyone harbors a secret hatred for the prettiest girl in the room.
As requested, I have analyzed these comments and here is my report:
10 percent: You are human garbage.
20 percent: I have a blog too.
20 percent: Here’s my sexy, fun comment, let’s go for a drink sometime, babes.
20 percent: You complete me.
10 percent: Random, may possibly be from new landlord.
20 percent: Too long/incoherent to finish.
Numbers have been rounded up/down/all around due to lack of commitment to this bit.
In closing,
on a really hot day, it is perfectly fine to put ice cubes in your wine, but only if it is white.
There are so many people like you, well not exactly. Regarding the press coverage you have been receiving, it seems so personal and unnecessary. It’s like you are the example that New York Magazine, or whoever, have decided to make. It’s a shame really. I enjoy your writing. I guess you just named too many names in your path.
From Susannah Breslin’s Blog, an excerpt from her novel “Happy”, completely out of context:
“Down in the Valley where the girls go-go and the men moan, where woodsmen get it up, get it in, and get it off and reverse cowgirls roam, the American dream was reborn as a 21st century porno.”
sunset profiles? uh, no.
and from your blog: “…and because it seemed like doing a favor for a friend of a friend, I spoke to her on the phone.”
I don’t want to beat a dead horse here, but that seems kinda snotty to me. so instead of calling her out for calling you out, maybe you should really consider thanking her for not setting the official record on fire and including your quotes.
Rachel Sklar is the worst kind of blog phony, pimping Emily and Julia when it was cool to do so in the FluffPo, then acting self-righteous when the worm turned. Just like Arianna acts now that the empty Obama is revealed to be no better than Clinton. Waaah.
For the record, you’re all phonies and need a soul check.
Admitting that the former Emily would have written contemptuously of the current you does not inoculate you from the contempt of others.
Your smugness and shitty treatment of other people has come back to bite you. Good. It’s gratifying to see a nasty person get some measure of comeuppance.
Yeah, sorry, but I’m grossed out by Rachel Sklar and Jessica Coen - ick. Compared to those c&*nts Emily, you rock.
As someone who has been on the net for almost fifteen years I don’t think anyone should have to leave up stupid comments like “you suck”. It’s your bandwidth, girl. Delete them. Also, focus your attention on something else. What these blowhard morons have to say is worth one glob of spit in the wind. Find something else to be interested in. Break out of this need to mine one’s early life for riches. What other people think and say on the internet means nothing in the long run - it doesn’t shape who you are. You are a bright person - but you bring this stuff on when you seek approval from vipers. Leave them to their own bloodsucking orgy. That’s about the best advice I can give you.
And finally, yeah, I agree with the commenter above who said that your early work at Gawker set you up for this. It’s Perez Hilton - yeah, he’ll have “fame” but it is going to come at a cost. This is the consequence of that. Believe me, Jessica Coen and Rachel Sklar (LOL) will certainly get theirs too. When you sit in judgment of others you will be judged more harshly. It’s a painful lesson but a lesson nonetheless. And you need to take the advice of another commenter who said to stop writing about this stuff. Just move on. Let the mean girls and boys giggle and make their stupid comments - just don’t read them. Read something else. Like, real news.
The people in this blog post (including you and the commenters) make me realize how much I really hate living in NYC sometimes. Emily, the only thing I can guarantee is that your 15 minutes will expire soon. And when that happens, I predict you will miss all of this attention like the true narcissist you really are.
I want to apologize for my above comment, which was overstated and open to misinterpretation and just generally out of line. So: I am sorry, and shall not trouble your comments again.
What goes around comes around, eh Emily?
Karmic retribution is indeed a bitch. The ugly, snark-riddled prose that you expelled daily like a baboon with a bad case of hyperemesis is coming back to haunt you. In spades. And to that I say…..savor.
I’d say you’ve got about 6 minutes left of your precious 15. Use them wisely.
when i read your writing it makes me want to be a part of the story. don’t do playboy. i wonder how long it would take me to make you hate me? i bet i can frustrate you with my disinterest while courting you with my attention. i listen. it goes in one ear and out the other. tell me more. are you hungry? want to make out?
Breslin is in her 40s, like Sklar. Both are longtime blog wannabes trying to show their superiority over the youngs. Thanks for calling them out whereas nobody else cares about either enough to do so.
why are you people who are slamming emily nonetheless reading her blog?
because she’s more interesting than you are. assholes.
I think I was a bitch about Liz Phair to you at the wrong time, and your post “I love Liz Phair,” afterwards cleared everything up in terms of the recent spate of Phair related material on your blog. You are right to love her, if you connect with her. I think I was just trying to be cautionary because her career crashed and burned and I hope yours doesn’t (or any other young start-up girls out there, for that matter). So that is where that was comment was coming from. Cautionary, not directing. But as a commenter (egad! it has to stop!), I can sound a lot bitchier than I intend. So duly noted.
And I guess why I am commenting here now is because I have been a person who has both really liked your writing and then felt a little bit turned off by the moralizing and finger wagging you engaged in after you left Gawker. I don’t enjoy writing easily, so this is a big compliment. But you know what? You are fucking compelling subject, as these comments can more than attest that. So work it!
As a reader of this site, I am really turned off by the sappy people who come here and link to their blogs and say, “oh, Emily, I love you.” It’s empty and not helpful to anyone (especially the reader of a sassy, intelligent blog like this!).
I guess I just want to strongly second what “A Stranger with a Blog” say. Just do your work, and leave this shit alone. If you really hate these shenanigans, don’t give it your attention. But keep the sass and neologisms alive! These are your special talents for now. Work them you will get more.
Now best of luck with that collection of essays. Congratulations!
@ 26 u learned from 24 when ur in a hole u stop dgging (@ 3×26 I’ve been there). http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l303/artsnooze/Loose%20Change/CulturalMemory.jpg
You guys can say what you want about Emily and continue to “savor” her comeuppance but be warned: she got off the train but you are still on it. You’re still saying things you would never say to someone face to face just because you can. It is still the sickening inhumanity of the internet and you’re still in your dark little corner where no one can see you hurling insults because it feels good. Gawker is a successful site for a reason. Perez and Drudge are leaders in the news because maybe deep down and in mass we are disgusting creatures. Emily has opted out of a beast she helped create and maybe is planning on changing her life. But what about you all? Will you still drift over to Gawker and snicker when no one else can see you? I hope Emily starts a new trend of opting out, and I hope that this means the beginning of the end of collective cruelty and the practice of virtual stoning. Surely we’ve evolved beyond that.
The Internet can be like a bad crack addiction. Or a sugar addiction. Or any kind of addiction, really. You know its bad for you and you know you should stop, but you just can’t.
Either way, unplug that shit for a minute and recharge. Go to a deliciously cheesy writing retreat. Or to quote an earlier commenter, go write by yourself in a cabin upstate a la Mandy Moore. Don’t let this bullshit suck the creative energy out of you. And by the looks of it, you aren’t, but just a friendly reminder to unplug and forget this BS for a minute. You deserve better.
All the support in the world,
J
You have a tremendous number of downright patronising comments here (including one from me).
If bloggers commit the sin of over-sharing, then commenters have their own vice too: over-caring.
Although I suppose both of those drive the whole blog/blook cycle.
Please stop being more successful than others, expressing opinions, pointing out music you like and standing up for yourself. It’s disgusting. The key to a happy and fulfilling life is taking advice from angry, bitter commenters (the word commenter is derived from the Greek “Mentor”).
I don’t know Rachel Sklar but from afar she seems a nice, attractive person and still quite young and though I wish she were a little less schoolmarmish in her HuffPo posts, I don’t think she’ll have any trouble finding a husband.
Emily.
Here’s a friendly suggestion: Why not just write your book and ignore all the butt-kiss praise or envious vitriol that you’re going to get anyway no matter what you do or where you’ve been?
If, what I think you’re getting at by leaving gawker, is that you’re a writer (not a gossip), then, by all means, write.
Be the writer.
I’m sure it will suit you better.
I hope you are not really heeding those who are saying you are a bad writer. Yes, it’s insulting, but consider the source!
When it comes to the greats we probably all, more-or-less agree, but when it comes to contemporaries, it sounds like jealousy here.
I think you write very smoothly, with a creative vocabulary, (though less “quotidian”) and obviously have a future.
I would read your book, though hopefully re-titled, “Bloop Bloop”
I’m going to second what Mr.DBH said and add “because smoking pot and watching television is so much better.”
(Happy Independence Day, Ms.Gould)
More yoga, Emily. Less internet.
Be happy.
And don’t forget to keep writing.
I don’t understand why your NYT piece attracted such vitriol. I thought it was really engrossing. Congratulations on your book deal. Don’t let the bastards get you down.
Hey Emily, I’m incredibly late on catching up on my Gawker alumni news. But, newsflash: You won. You got the book deal, you got the NYT cover byline, you didn’t publish in freaking Page Six Magazine. You’re turning turds into gold. Don’t waste your time and energy on wondering why people envy you.
I spent a brief sojourn in the belly of the NYC media machine, and I quickly learned how fucking catty and conniving everyone is, so you have my empathy. I just wish you weren’t still so surprised about it all.
Emily, you do realize that if you weren’t thin enough to look good photographed in a red swimsuit and willing to plaster those pictures all over the Web site you were working for, you wouldn’t be anywhere now, would you? And the way you are treated online now is no different from the way you and your staff treated Mara Altman and all the other young writers whose only fault was having lackluster editors who didn’t do their job and polish their stories. The way you went after her was really cutthroat. I’m sure you would have been really sweet to her in real life - one of your ex-Gawker compatriots certainly was. I witnessed the interaction at a party last year, and was sickened. If you’re going to tear someone a new one in a place that will exist forever in a Web cache, somewhere, you can at least do them the favor of doing it to their face, too. I’m sure you believe that too, right, Emily?
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